Let’s be real—nothing kills the mood faster than a clumsy "Hey, can we talk about last night?" right after sex.
Why Feedback Is the Secret Sauce of Good Sex
Think about it: You wouldn’t silently suffer through a terrible haircut for months, right? So why do we treat sex like some unspoken mystery where everyone’s just supposed to know what works?
Feedback isn’t about criticism—it’s about upgrading the experience for both of you. The best lovers aren’t mind-readers; they’re the ones who ask, listen, and adapt.
How to Give Feedback Without the Awkwardness
1. Ditch the Post-Sex Debrief
❌ "So, about what you did with your hands earlier…" (Instant mood killer.)
✅ Do this instead: Bring it up before things get hot and heavy. Over dinner, while cooking, or even via flirty text: "I keep thinking about that thing you did last time… wanna try it again but slower?"
2. Flip Complaints Into Requests
❌ "You always rush foreplay." (Sounds like an accusation.)
✅ Try this: "I get so turned on when we take our time—wanna tease me a little longer tonight?" (Now it’s an invitation, not a complaint.)
3. Show, Don’t Just Tell
Words can fail, but body language doesn’t.
- Guide their hand where you want it.
- Moan louder when they do something you love.
- If something’s not working, shift positions or slow things down.
Pro tip: A well-timed "Right there—don’t stop" is the ultimate feedback hack.
4. Keep It Playful
Turn feedback into foreplay:
- "What if you tried this while I use my vibrator?"
- "I dare you to make me beg for it first."
- "Next time, I’m gonna show you exactly how I touch myself."
How to Take Feedback Like a Pro
Let’s face it—hearing "Maybe try this instead" can sting. But here’s how to handle it without ego trips:
1. Don’t Panic
If your partner speaks up, it means they trust you enough to be honest. It’s not a verdict on your skills—it’s a cheat code to even better sex.
2. Ask Questions
Instead of "Oh… so you don’t like how I do it?" try:
- "Tell me more—what feels best for you?"
- "Show me how you like it." (Then pay attention.)
3. Laugh It Off
Sex is messy, weird, and hilarious. If something doesn’t work, just grin and say, "Welp, let’s try Plan B."
The Golden Rule: Feedback Should Feel Good
If talking about sex feels tense, you’re doing it wrong. The goal isn’t a spreadsheet of performance notes—it’s more pleasure, more connection, and way fewer unspoken frustrations.
So next time you’re in bed, remember: The hottest thing you can do is communicate. (And maybe throw in a "God, you’re good at that" for good measure.)
Stay vocal, stay turned on.